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Tuesday, 9 October 2012

Blogging about nothing

So, I'm feeling really uninspired about what to post lately, but I do want to keep up the habit of blogging so here come some random thoughts that may or may not interest you.

Hayley is on the verge.... of crawling! My little baby has grown so much in the past few weeks (although, she's still tiny). She's so cute. She pivots on her tummy and rocks on all fours - it's only a matter of time before she's off... and I'm after her babyproofing our house again to accommodate for her cleverness :P She's such a happy little soul, and is usually very patient with me when she needs something and I'm busy getting Natalie settled so that she'll (hopefully) be happy for long enough that I can take care of Hayley uninterrupted. Hayley learning to crawl will probably help with that I guess since she'll be able to entertain herself a bit more... or follow me around hoping her persistence will hurry me along :)

Natalie is also a beautiful young girl who brings a whole lot of joy in to our home. There are also a lot of challenges of course (she is two!) but hopefully I can look back in years to come and remember it as a terrific age and not a terrible one. She's definitely coming forward in leaps and bounds with her speech lately. She can copy most anything you say, (although she does say things like pita-allen when she means piano... ??) and judging by the things she says without prompting she understands a lot - often more than I would have expected! She is a very helpful Little Miss. At times I find this difficult, such as when I want to get things done that bit quicker or when I feel I'd just like my space, but generally I try to treasure the time we spend doing things together. She is beginning to understand that there are some things mummy will do, and then she will get a turn - if we're baking, I'll measure out ingredients, then she gets to tip them in to the bowl - and so she is fairly patient with the process.

Jonathan has had some changes in his work situation that are making work a much more pleasant experience. I'm happy for him! He deserves it, because he's simply fabulous :) If I say any more about my Dear One, it could become a whole new blog post :P

And me? I'm trying to be better at living in the moment - to worry less about things that have happened and to spend less time being anxious about what may (or may not) happen in the future... and instead just embrace what is happening now and to stop waiting for things to be perfect before I relax and enjoy the bounty that is around me. (I've read a few articles on the topic recently, including a blog post by my sister that inspired me.)


Wednesday, 3 October 2012

Enjoying my children

Recently I have come across a blog which may be my new favourite: finding joy (thanks to my cousin Sarah).

Basically everything I've read on this blog is awesome, but some of her posts that I've read so far and enjoyed are: three mom goals for the week; 20 motherhood tips; 20 {more} motherhood tips; and how to find joy -- in motherhood; starting at the top

Some of the posts that I read got me to thinking about the time that I spend with my children... and I realised that far too much of it is spent getting ready to do the next thing... or checking on them every so often while I do house work... or with other people around who have my attention while the kids do their own thing. Don't get me wrong, we do have wonderful and sweet moments each day, but I have made a commitment to myself that I need to set time aside where my attention is wholey and solely for them.


I'm talking moments in each day where I show them that I have an interest in what their doing and that I delight in them... but also a longer period of time (a few hours) once a week where everything else gets put aside and it is time I spend just enjoying my children.

Because, frankly, relationships with your children (particularly toddlers) can be strained by mundane things like poop in the knickers for the fourth time in the same day, screaming matches over not being able to do a specific activity, or how difficult it is to teach them how to play nicely! On the flip side, I'm sure Natalie (and in time Hayley will) gets sick of hearing things like, "be careful", "are you sure you don't need the toilet","what have you got there" etc. ;) ... and so I figure that it's a good idea to invest time in our relationship that will be positive and remind each other (specifically mummy) of the love we have and that it's all worth the difficult bits in the end.

Today we went to a new playground I discovered on a website playgroundfinder.com: Heywood Park (in Unley Park). We had packed lunch with us, and as Natalie had fallen asleep on the way there I parked in the shade, wound the windows down and sat for a while, while I focused on Hayley and fed her lunch. About the time that was done Natalie woke up and we got out. Natalie decided she wanted to eat lunch first and then play, so we sat at a picnic table, looked around and chatted. Mostly Hayley sat in the pram while we followed Natalie around and helped her on the equipment when needed, but I also carried her for a while...

Anything worthwhile is worth the time spent nurturing it!

Tuesday, 2 October 2012

Fears

One of the greatest mummy challenges I have at the moment is dealing with my toddlers fears.

Dear Little Miss Natalie is scared, terrified, almost phobic of dogs. I don't know whether to laugh or cry when, on a 15 minute walk that should only take 5 minutes, (to the playground where she wanted to play) her constant refrain was, "My scary doggy, mummy hug me/carry me." And that started before we'd even gotten out of the house. It's almost easier to drive to the park. But that probably won't help her in the long run. My poor little bubby. (Granted from a 2 year olds perspective, that German Shepherd behind the fence IS definitely a very scary thing.)

We slowly but surely make our way there. My strategy is to stop and hug her for a while, but tell her that I can't carry her (except as we pass the house with the dog - at which time she clings to me for dear life and I couldn't put her down if I tried) as I have the stroller with Hayley in it to push as well. Sometimes distracting her works - I point out something on the path ahead that we could go and look at, etc. or she holds my hand for comfort, or perhaps helps push the stroller.


I really want Natalie to be able to have a nice walk down the street, and really discover things on our journey instead of constantly looking around, waiting for a dog to jump out at her, but at the moment that fear is holding her back from being able to enjoy herself!


By the way, if anyone has ideas on how to help Natalie be cautious but less afraid of dogs I'm listening!

On another note, all this has also got me to thinking this evening about my own fears and how the have held me back in the past, and whether they are still holding me back now... I feel fortunate to be able to say that there are fears that have held me back in the past that I have overcome. Likely there is also a share of fears that I still hold, but being aware of them helps one to overcome them too so there is hope for me yet!  :P